Mistakes ladies make in a relationship

1. You don’t know your value

Most ladies don’t know their value, they love to go after guys that are taken. Some even prefer to go with the bad guys, dashing after them like a lost kitten. The more they get shut out, the more they devise other means to get in. You console yourself with this thinking of “He will change” I’ve got a question for you, Are you on a gospel dating hoping for a miracle? Sweet,  you are just a ‘double single’  lady. You have to learn to own yourself, know your value and never degrade it.  If you don’t change, you are about to become single for a long time. No man wants a zombie.

2. Don’t try to change him 

Yes, you read it aright. A guy can’t be so much in love with you and all you can come up with in your head is to try to fix him like a faulty gadget, you know that’s not fair enough, how would you feel if he’s the one trying to change your attitude like a CD? All you need is to give him reasons to change. Naturally,  women are very caring but in a relationship you need to place limits,  else you break what you have. For instance, if your partner doesn’t dress to your fashion taste, instead of lodging complaints,  why not dress better make him assess you and him see the difference. He isn’t your biological baby, so watch it woman.

3. Not acknowledging your partner 

It’s not enough to exist together, there must be a connection between the both of you. You shouldn’t just be in a relationship through oration, the communication must be kept 100,if don’t want to be like a roommate to your partner.

4. Don’t play the marriage card

It’s funny how young ladies are becoming desperate to be a ‘Mrs’.  Being married is sweet but it’s totally odd,  for you to get into a relationship with the plans of getting married before anyone can say “Jack” . Apparently,  guys don’t like it when a lady is pushing the marriage card to them, they easily feel choked by this. Give it time,  your relationship will grow to that  stage.

5. Enjoy both his presence and absence 

It’s cool to ‘love up’, I mean both parties enjoy it. At some point in a relationship you will both feel like seeing eachother every moment of the day, as good as it feels, it might be unhealthy for your relationship. You are like a flower and he the sun, you know the effect of excess sun on flowers. You need to enjoy his absence as much as you enjoy his presence, it improves the relationship.

6. Jealousy 

Everyone gets jealous, but there must be a watch on your rate of jealousy. A lot of relationship crash because boyfriend or girlfriend is jealous due to emotional insecurity. You need to calm yourself and never allow jealousy take over you.

7. Paranoia 

You can’t be paranoid because you feel your partner might break up with you, and still have your heart and head in the relationship. This is a very common mistake that ends relationships, when the feeling takes over you, you become unnecessarily conscious  of things that don’t matter, and this might take another turn on your partner then before you know it, the relationship is off.

Forgive my blunt nature but in the meantim, young lady watch it!

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I'm Christiana Oni (Sanchez May), a writer, lover, friend & teacher. Anything that comes in chocolate form is definitely my favorite.

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44 Comments on Mistakes ladies make in a relationship

  1. Who said u r not on point, that person must be totally out of sense….

    You have hit the nail on the head n it’s just your nature.

    Go girl! Move on in thy writing might….. more insights I pray.

    • It’s possible you fall in love with the wrong person.To avoid falling in love with the wrong person, you need to check the correlation between your likes and dislikes, you need to take cognizance of the person’s attitude.

      Hope I’ve answered you? For more clarification,mail us @ onisanchezmay@gmail.com

  2. Whats this I’m reading….. Are u reading my burden….are u scanning through my pains.? Thank u for the insight, it will correct my ignorance.

  3. I have come to realize that mistakes are bound to be corrected. Thanks, I have learnt a lot from your writings. Please, can you say “NO” to every guy that comes your way even when you don’t have one boyfriend to boast of?

    • Why not, it’s not compulsory you date a guy because you want to get busy,you might end up breaking your heart by yourself. If you haven’t found the guy you really love, sweetie, saying NO doesn’t hurt. Just wait till you find the right guy.

  4. Very true. Post more, but I want to ask; in a situation where ur woman push u so hard 2 get jealous cos of her suspicious calls nd wen u ask her y dos call nd all she can tell u is “if u re tired go 4 anoda woman” full stop. What do u do?

    • Josh,you need to have a discussion with her, you need to know if she still loves or she’s holding you down to pass her time. Don’t let her push you to do what you wouldn’t like. Communication is what you need.

      You can give me a feedback on WhatsApp 07088686743

  5. Wat if both partner loves eachoda very much bt d family of d lady does nt agree with d relationship nd due 2 dis,d relationship began 2 shake wat should dey do as partner 2 kip d relationship strong?

  6. its true u can’t change a human being cox u r not d person dat create dem.I Luv dix so pls my fellow single ladies watch out kk don’t b a fool

  7. Is it right 4 a guy 2 end his relationship becos her girl frnd 4got 2 send an xmas nd new yr text 2 him nd he is seeing it as uncaringnes nd unregardnes 2 him

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